The Right Relationship - Signs You Are In The Right Relationship

Posted by joanne on January 4th, 2010 at 11:40am

If you think you are not in the right relationship then know that this is something many people often think about. The truth is, if you have been together with the same person for any length of time and you are happy in the relationship, then the answer may lie in the fact that being happy is the key to understanding that this partnership is where you really belong.

Why is it that people actually think like this. Well in actual fact, it’s a pretty natural thought especially for those people who have just fought a battle to get back in what they thought was the right relationship after a break up only to realize they may have made a mistake.

If you are in this situation right now then it’s a scary place to be. You think you love the person you’re with and you fought hard to get back in their life but there are still seeds of doubt you cannot shake. What can you do?

How To Know If You Are In The Right Relationship

Let’s take a look at several suggestions to help you figure out if you are in the right relationship. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to know, it basically gets down yo you and your instincts. But here are a few tips to help you along.

#1. Ask yourself the obvious questions like are you happy with this person? Or does this person make me feel happy? If you answer yourself honestly and the general feeling you have is a positive one then this is more than likely the right relationship.

#2. Should you feel guilty if there is still a small seed of doubt? No, because if you’re general feeling is a positive one then it should counter-act any small negative feeling. One small bad feeling shouldn’t be the catalyst for a trial separation.

#3. How about when you act as if you are about to be overwhelmed with a sad feeling. Does this reflect your relationship? Again not necessarily. Most couples have setbacks and it’s normal to think crazy thoughts such as “I’ll leave” or “I don’t think she/he is right for me” when you have had a difference of opinion. Your pride is hurt but the good thing is it can disappear very quickly.

#4. Do you find yourself having thoughts about other people? There are many times when many people will often think about someone else and what it would be like to have gone down that route in the relationship stakes. Well, if many people think like this then what does that tell you. It’s normal human behavior. The difference between someone who is in the right relationship and someone who isn’t is the ability to switch those thoughts off in an instant. If they are with you 24 hours a day then you have to have doubts the current relationship is right.

#5. Are you feeling safe and stable in your current relationship. As a woman, feeling safe is a big issue so do you feel physically safe with your partner? How about emotionally? Women look for security including emotional security so how do you feel about your partner’s ability to protect you from any kind of harm?

#6. Another question to ask yourself is the threat of break up and do you think about it all the time? If you do then there are insecurities there either from past relationships or the current one. Has your partner cheated before? Do you think they are cheating now? If you spend a lot of time thinking and worrying about this then this may not be the right relationship to be in.

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